elizabeth. mixed race. queer. seattle fatty living the post undergrad lifestyle.
pro fat folk, especially the queer ones. all day everyday.
if yr not, well bye bye
yesssss i hate defining it and avoid it whenever i can because it makes me feel yucky 1. to explain my sexual preferences to someone and 2. pin down and title queerness when it just is and its different for a lot of ppl
The trouble with explaining what queerness is (to your parents, to straight cis people, to your friends, to yourself) is that as soon as you define queerness as this or that, you have lost it. Once you pin queerness down and establish boundaries of what queer is and what it means, whatever that is isn’t queer anymore. It’s a solidified identity, which is precisely what queer isn’t. And so you have to go in search of the queer again. Every time you try to pin it down, it escapes you: that is queerness’ power. I won’t go so far as to say queerness is the search for the queer, but it is perpetually in motion. This makes people uncomfortable. Being queer can feel a bit like sea-sickness sometimes. Some people may even doubt the existence of the queer, given this notion of queer as horizon (as outlined by José Esteban Muñoz). However, I would argue that unlike saying “Queer is…” saying “I am queer” does not limit queerness in a way that eliminates it. Instead, it enacts the notion of queer as horizon: it opens queer up to the infinite possibilities of your future. It understands your present as one of the possibilities of your past future. To say “I am queer” is not to say that queer is only what you are, but that you are an iteration which can and will expand queerness. You are a queerness which has never heretofore occurred, and all your potential is the realm of queer horizon of being. So the academic understanding of queerness does not destroy queer in lived experience. Queer continues to exist in the potentiality of queer-identified bodies. That is what, or where, queer is.
When youre queer no one asks when youre getting married. No one asks if you have a love, even a boyfriend. When youre queer no one seems to care about the romantics of your life whatsoever.
Are you a Queer Muslim? Would you be interested in helping to maintain a Queer Muslim Tumblr presence?
I am a queer Muslim & I created this Tumblr some time ago really as a “holding” spot for something that I knew needed to exist, a space that I knew I…
!!! signal boost
ugh. trying to do some guerilla art, and needing some non-binary fat (and of color, preferrably) body photos. help?
WHY HUNGRY VIRGIN? (SUBTITLES HERE)
** the audio ended up coming out really low, so click the subtitles link if you need to
The other night we got together for a drunken conversation about politics behind living a Hungry Virgin Lifestyle. Overall we just make awkward jokes about having sex with each other, but we did talk a little bit about how Hungry Virgins came to be. Here are some main points:
- Being a Hungry Virgin is about resisting heteronormative and patriarchal ideas about virginity, sex, and pleasure
- Being a Hungry Virgin is about celebrating and reclaiming our bodies and celebrating our relationships with food
- Being a Hungry Virgin is about reclaiming stereotypes and turning them into humour as a form of resistance
- Being a Hungry Virgin is about resisting the stereotype that fat people are de-sexualized or don’t fuck/can’t fuck/shouldn’t fuck
- Being a Hungry Virgin is about recognizing that all bodies are good bodies and that connecting across difference in the face of a destructive climate that hates all of our bodies is a bad ass form of resistance
NOTE: Being a Hungry Virgin doesn’t actually have to be about sex at all if you don’t want it to. We went straight to sex with it but really it can be whatever you want it to be. It can also be something you don’t personally identify with and that is totally solid too, there are plenty of Hungry Virgins out there, and it’s not for everyone. I think at its core though, it is about a reclamation of our bodies, a celebration of food and a transformation of stereotypes that are used against fat bodies into a humorous form of resistance.
ON FAT ACCEPTANCE: We are not trying to create a rift between people who organize around body politics and those who organize around a framework of fat acceptance. We think FA is really important, but we are more invested in organizing around a politic that opens up social movements and creates room for a multiplicity of bodies and experiences. (There is room for fat acceptance in there!)
One last thing: The mom comment might have been a little insensitive – Glitter Politic does NOT hate moms, nor did we mean to homogenize all of them or insinuate that they are frumpy.
p.s. if you were wondering about the sexy off-camera voice, it belongs to the hot Hungry Virgin Julia. Thanks for asking the important questions!
can i please have those titties? hot danm. hungry virg for LYFE.
In honor of Queer History Month, Ms. Bloggers will be giving shout-outs to some of their queer heroes of the present and past.
Leslie Feinberg has been fighting the fight (or more accurately, fights) for more years than I’ve been on this earth. In that regard, ze is my elder. I use this as a term of reverence for someone whose work has changed my life. And that’s exactly what Feinberg is—a teacher and a life changer. Other words to describe ze are activist, coalition builder, writer, transgender warrior and social justice leader. In case this is your introduction to Leslie Feinberg, here is some background to orient you:
Feinberg is the author of several books including Stone Butch Blues (1993), Transgender Warriors: Making History from Joan of Arc to Dennis Rodman(1997), Trans Liberation: Beyond Pink or Blue (1999) and Drag King Dreams (2006). Feinberg’s novels take readers on an emotional journey through the ever-changing lives of characters I dare you not to love. Always at the frontier of transgender politics, hir non-fiction books reveal the complexities of gender in a way that everyone can grasp.
can ya’llz make a calendar? i’d totally but that.
Cis white lesbians do not own dyke or queer women’s culture. This is about rejecting transphobic pseudo-radical feminist discourse. Let’s imagine what a truly radical inclusive queer dyke culture could look like. Submissions can take any form. Rants, raves, poems, personal anecdotes, essays, song lyrics, drawings, collages etc. are all welcome.
Some topic ideas:
- What is queer? What is dyke? Are you one, both or neither? Transmisogyny, how have you experienced or witnessed it, how can we fight it and stand in solidarity against it?
- Racism in queer/dyke spaces, tokenization of women of color
- Bi/queerphobia in dyke communities, busted ideas about lesbian “purity” and “gold star” status, how can we change or resist them
- Words like womyn, grrrl and persyn; are they necessary any more?
- Butch/femme, how CAFAB masculinity is privileged, queer femme invisibility, passing
- Desires. How do you fuck? How do your sexuality and gender intersect?
- Violence and rape in queer/dyke communities, survivor experiences
- Queer/trans-positive anarcha-feminism; state or police violence
- How economic inequality, reproductive injustice, health care and employment discrimination, street harassment etc. affects queers, dykes, trans and cis women all together
- Women’s space in general: useful or irrelevant? can they exist without erasing non-binary folx, intersex folx, women of color or non-lesbians? Punk culture and/or riot grrrl?
- Best practices for allies – listening, honoring anger, taking responsibility
- Open letters: what do you need from queers, dykes and/or women?
Why is this zine called Stitches?: To stitch is to mend. Think about stitching up a wound. It requires the painful puncture of a needle, reunion and gradual healing of torn flesh. This is an analogy for a process that queer/dyke communities need to go through. We need tough conversations. We need to abandon inaccurate ideas.
Who can submit: Open to all! I strive to center POC, trans women, non-binary people, intersex people, and people with disabilities.
Why am I doing this: I’m a genderqueer butch dyke grrrl who has been told that I can’t be dyke because I’m fat, non-binary, queer-not-lesbian, engaged to a CAMAB person and kinky. I’m also sick of queers dumping on trans women. I don’t think that it is always their job to fight transmisogyny. Cis women and CAFAB people need to call each other’s bullshit and listen to trans women if we are ever going to get anywhere.
Format: 8 1/2 x 7” (recycled legal paper folded in half), b&w pages with color cover, staple bound. I’m aiming for 12-16 pages for the first issue.
Deadline: November 6, 2011.
Contact or send submissions to: firstname.lastname@example.org